I heard a story from a friend the other day. She had gone to dinner with a friend she had known for some time, the dinner didn’t go too well. There were things she noticed about her friend that night that she didn’t enjoy, perhaps things she had been able to overlook in the past. I’m hoping she writes a story about this dinner — but, it made me think about friends and how we become friends and who we’re drawn to and who we avoid.
I’ve had people come into my life at some very peculiar times, maybe it was times of change and therefore I was beckoning them in — whether it was kindergarten or high school or college or now. People who come in and out of my life because we share something — a laugh, a thought, a cry, a hug. It’s hard to know when to let those people go — or even if you have to. Some, I would say, stay with you forever — it’s meant to be… the friendship the togetherness. Some, I would say, have only a fleeting stay. You grow, you evolve, you move on — sometimes it’s sad, sometimes it’s necessary. Sometimes evolution draws you to a different path and you part ways.
I think we can take comfort in the fact that as you grow and evolve people will be drawn to you because of this — the right people will be drawn to you because of this. Those are the friends that will endure. Those are the friends that you will sit down to dinner with and overlook the loud chewing or the constant motioning for attention from the waiter — those are the friends that will stick to you and you to them.
I’ve had friends in my life that I thought I couldn’t live without — still do actually. Some of them I no longer speak to because of time or distance. Others have stayed in spite of or due to that strange phenomenon called evolution. I’m hoping my evolution will keep them close to me — I know my evolution will keep them close to me. And that gives me comfort. I’m drawn to people for a reason — they shine, they glow, they sparkle, they cry, they fight, they continue to love. That’s who I’m drawn to — that’s who I’m sticking with.
I hope you enjoy this clip from
one of the greatest friendship pairs of all time! I’m pretty sure I’m Carol!