I live in the south.
It would be more common to have several tornados blow through my town than to be able to calculate snow fall in inches. Yet here I sit, another snow day.
This snow that came upon us last night was unexpected. It was wet. It was cold. It was dreary. It was sudden. We didn’t long for it the way we have for the other recent snows. We would have rather it stayed away. But, as with all things, we can’t keep the dreary, cold times away. We have to approach them just as we do the happy, content times. We have to accept that, these too, help us achieve a balance.
So, instead of rushing out to sled and make snowmen and play, we are all content with staying safe in the house. Not venturing out into the cold — but, being here, with each other. Safe. Warm. Happy.
I have often thought about unconditional acceptance.
There are many people in my life that I think have my full unconditional acceptance. For some reason, I was listing them in the shower the other morning. It made me think, maybe I dish out this supreme form of acceptance a little too quickly.
I definitely have unconditional acceptance for my kids. We have to don’t we? How many people in our lives can we say the same thing over and over to and when they still don’t do it we just let it pass or delve out a punishment — but we never quit loving them (yes, I am absolutely thinking about how messy my kids rooms are right now). After a few minutes, we carry on — we hug, we talk, we love.
What I was really thinking about (yes, in the shower — some people sing, I think) the other morning, was if it’s possible to have unconditional acceptance for friends. So, I made my list. Right off the top I came up with two names — two friends that are definitely in the say anything, do anything category. But then my list grew. I started to think about people who I hadn’t seen or talked to in years — people I went to high school with and college with — people I think could tell me just about anything and I would still call them friend. I would still sit down to chat. I would still want to be in their presence.
But, maybe I’m wrong on this one. Maybe I shouldn’t be so quick to give out unconditional acceptance. Possibly when you give out unconditional acceptance you are expecting it in return — you are expecting to be able to say anything to that friend and them have the same response that you would have…and that’s not necessarily the case. But, whether perfect or not… it’s difficult to give. But I do. And I will.
So, back to an unexpected snow day.
Back to a cold, wet, dreary day that can only get better with friends and kids and hugs and perhaps a little Dr. Seuss.
Back to the unconditional acceptance (I know some of you will like this video!) of those you love — and who love you.
Back to another snow day, seriously.